After going through the agony of your break up, you start to feel that the entire thing is a big mistake. You’re probably asking how you could win back your husband.
If you’re seeking help from a therapist to rescue your relationship following a divorce, one of the first things you would probably be asked is why you want to take your ex back. This is a very valid question. You may have already assessed your marriage and concluded that the relationship is ended far too soon without trying hard enough to save it. However, if you just don’t want to face the uncertainly and fear for being alone, or think that being in a bad marriage is still better than being single, then you need some help to survive you through the depression and loneliness before doing anything else that you may regret.
If you’re certain that to get your husband back is the best choice for both of you, given below are a few simple steps you can follow.
1. Have a sincere and mature discussion with your ex on why the relationship ended. Don’t nag, yell, but talk. Identify what kind of misunderstandings that have taken you so far away from each other. If you can have a truthful talk without recriminations and focus on how both of you feel about the relationship, you may find that you’re not really that far apart after all.
2. Take some time to examine which part you’ve contributed to the falling of your relationship. No one is ever perfect. Determine what your part was and identify which behaviors that you need to change and improve in order to get back your partner.
3. Many couples are having difficulty to express themselves and listen to their partners. Couples who can do this well are often find themselves having a healthy marriage, and do not ever need to deal with getting back with their ex. You can seek resources that can help both of you to communicate.
Divorce is probably the last thing you want to go through. If you think that you’ve made a mistake, and you want to learn to win back your husband, then these steps will be the first thing you need to do.