When aiming to win back your old girlfriend, you are indeed dealing with a very difficult and sensitive situation. You and your ex can get even more painful because of this. So, it is important to make sure all actions taken subsequently will not hurt both people any further. Give some thoughts to the following points when getting your ex girlfriend back.
1. Most importantly, find out what you have done that made the relationship to collapse in the first place. Although you may not be aware of the real reason behind the breakup, girls usually do not just leave their loved one out of a sudden. The most critical action now is to determine what went wrong, and how to prevent the same things from happening again if there is a chance to win them back.
2. Most of the time both partners are responsible for the failure of the relationship. But, if you are the one who is at fault then it is necessary to let your former lover know that you recognize what went wrong. You have made a big mistake, and now you do regret of your past behaviors and the undesirable outcomes.
3. While you and your former girlfriend may not be in constant contact with each other at the moment, it doesn’t mean that you should stop socializing with the rest of the world. Go out to have some fun with friends and date other girls if you like. I don’t mean that you should jump right back in to another relationship. Doing so will allow you to see what is available out there and allow you to have more options.
4. One ideal way to win back the love is to show them you have already moved on. Nevertheless, you need to let them know you still care about them, and that you have now changed to become more mature and attractive.
5. Lastly, you should work towards being a friend again with your former girlfriend. It will not only pull the relationship closer, but it also helps to build trust with one another.
Sit down and have an honest talk with your ex. Ask them why they spilt up in the first place, but don’t show them you are desperate. She may tell you that the split up was for the good of both people, or it was really a big mistake to have separated with you. Once you gain more insight about the issues, then the next steps can be planned out.
These are just the initial moves to bring back your ex. You can read a few relationship books to learn more winning techniques to improve the chance of success. Take a look at the “Magic of Making Up” for simple and practicable tips to win the battle. Take care!