If you’re caught on cheating and you don’t want to lose your partner after the affair, your mind must be thinking what to do to rebuild a relationship.
Whether or not two people can get back together will depend if both are willing to, or able to forget and forgive the past. If not it won’t happen.
Rebuilding trust is extremely difficult after an infidelity. When two people start on a relationship, each of them holds a blank slate. Both will try to learn to trust each other, and it will be much easier if you don’t have any negative baggage.
When they have lower their guard, trusted you and allowed you to enter into their world, it is very difficult to subject themselves up to pain when you have committed an affair and demonstrated to them that their trust on you was totally wrong. While it may be tough, the last thing you want to do is to give up. You will have to do all sorts of things to make your partner trust you and fall in love again. But, provided the two of you are willing and committed to work on it together.
In such situation, the best thing to do is to provide them the time and space to cold head. While giving your partner a break, you should ask yourself why you want to commit to such a less than desirable behavior and cheat on the person you love. Figure out why you make such a mistake. Was it about the loneliness, sex, insecurity, or ego?
You need to identify and address the root causes of your problem that have made you hooked up with somebody. It is important that you understand your problem so that you won’t repeat the same mistakes when your ex reunites with you later. While it may take a bit of time to understand your destructive behaviors, it will be your last chance to show your ex that you’re willing to make changes and that you can be trusted.
In order to get unbiased opinions as to what your actual problems are, you may want to consider talking to a counselor. Sometimes it is not easy to see your own problems. Most of the time you need a different pairs of eyes to point out the things that you have to change so that you can become a better person moving forward.
It will take a lot of effort, commitment and honesty to regain trust after an affair. When your ex starts to feel the love, everything will roll again. If you think that you won’t be able to commit totally, it is best that you just let go of the relationship. Find out some great advice from T.W. Jackson before you take any action—first watch the video on top of the page.