You may be in dire need trying to find some good answers to repair the broken trust after an affair. Well, there are many techniques available but not all of them can work.
If your marriage has broken down because one person has been unfaithful to the other person, there are some things you should do, or shouldn’t be doing to mend the situation. If the things you’ve done are wrong, don’t tell your spouse that you’re going to change, or try to convince them to believe you. Just make the change on your behaviors and actions. If you’re serious about preventing a breakup, start taking responsibility seriously.
The truth is that you don’t expect the other person to believe you if the trust has already broken, at least you don’t deserve it. What can really help you now is to avoid doing it again. Your actions will speak louder than words. So, don’t do anything that will make them question about your faithfulness, and then gradually prove to them that you can be trusted again. This takes some energy and time, and hopefully they are not being hurt so much that restoration of trust will never be possible again.
Human always has the soft touch, and he or she used to love you a lot. This is good news. It means that a consistent effort to be faithful will make them think that you are changing and worthy to trust again. Don’t hide your past mistakes that you have been disloyal to them or breached the trust. Don’t ever try to justify the wrongdoing and argue about it. Own up to your own mistakes and take responsibility if you flubbed up.
You may face a situation where the other person has been guilty of unfaithfulness or breaching trust. Imagine how you would want your other half to give you a second chance. If you can really forget and forgive the past incidence and feel that they deserve one, put yourself in their shoe and try to understand why it happened in the first place. You may be able to resolve issue in this way, but many times, this just can’t happen.
Seek help from friends who have been through a similar situation and separated with their partners, or from a professional counselor who has been trained to help couples to handle this situation. If the marriage is important to you and that it is worth to save, try to find the best possible resources you can get.
Nevertheless, be prepared to put in energy and time as it won’t be easy to deal with this kind of issue. You may suffer from depression, and you may need external resources to help you understand what is going on. A healthy love life is enjoyable but it can also bring a great deal of nightmare when the trust is broken. Ask for help if you can’t handle it all alone. Likewise, you should also read a few self-help books to learn a few more workable tips.