Many couples are asking “Can I save my marriage?” Well, the answer is certainly a “yes,” but you are going to have a difficult path lies in front of you. Before starting with the tough journey, there is a question you must first answer with honesty.
Take a long and hard look at the current situation of your relationship. Is he or she the person that you really want to be for the rest of your life?
If the answer is negative, then stop reading any further. You should just go straight to the nearest attorney office and ask to file a divorce.
Still there with me? Good, I will now teach you some practicable approach to use in saving your relationship.
Once the decision is firm and that it is worth to rescue the relationship, then stop thinking about going to the divorce courts anymore because you have just committed to stay with the marriage. It is also the time to accept the fact that you are going to make some changes and start doing some essential work.
If you want the relationship to work more than your significant other, then you will have to accept the fact that you are the one who will need to make almost all of the changes and improvements. You are expected to do and talk more as well. Spend some time to get to know your spouse all over again, and try to engage in activities they do. If they are willing to share their interests with you, then get involved even though you are not in to watching football, doing scrap-booking or playing computer games.
Try to talk your partner into seeking help from a marital therapist. Have a mediator to look at your marriage from a different pairs of eyes from outside, ask specific questions and facilitate the sharing of feelings between the two of you. This effort will surely improve the situation you are in now.
You should also realize that there is no perfection in any marriage. Get the “ideal situation” out of your mind, and set a reasonable expectation so that you can focus to work on what is good for the relationship. Take a look at the video prepared by T. Dub Jackson that talks about the initial things that should be done in order to rescue a relationship. To save your marriage, be prepared of the hard road lies ahead.