Nowadays, both partners in a relationship have to juggle with so many things in life at the same time. With all the pressures coming from different directions, it is not easy to keep a relationship going strong. Even if a red flag is already raised between two partners, finding time to work on it can also be very challenging. This report will give you some advice on relationships, targeting at the very busy, stressed couples to avoid getting themselves in to a crisis.
There are at least 3 things that you can do today to strengthen the relationship or get it off from the brink. This approach will focus on the quality time together and not so much on the total time two people co-exist. While going through the points below, keep this concept in mind.
1. Identify activities that both partners enjoy doing together. It doesn’t matter if it is a short exploration trip to some nearby town during weekend, or a bowling session at the local mall provided both of you share an enjoyable experience together. When it is your time, arrange the kids to spend the evening with their grandma, turn off the t.v. set, and switch off all the phone ringers. It is not about two people being together in the same place concurrently, but how the two of you will connect with each other.
Having special time like this is so important for 2 purposes. First, it provides you the time and space to unwind and relax from stresses of work, kids and daily life, with just the two of you. When both are feeling more relaxed, naturally both parties will give more to the relationship. Second, it gives a chance to the couple to find back some shared experiences from time to time. It is fun to go back to the past and talk about some happy old events. You will mention “remember we did this..?” All these precious memories can create a deeper bond between two parties.
2. Most couples just talk about day-to-day routine things like asking their partner if they can pick up some groceries on the way home, or if they have a good meeting with clients today. Plan some time to really talk every week, and be consistent in doing it. Just talk about anything but don’t end up complaining. Share your dream with your other half, and relive happy past experiences. Be willing to listen and share. Get into each other’s mind a little and make the sharing session a positive one.
3. Always remind yourself about the things that have attracted you to them in the first place. Was it their look, their goofy behaviors, their sense of humor, their laugh? Whatever the attractions are don’t forget that. Let your partner know about it while you’re thinking about their appeals.
If you love their sense of humor, then tell them that you like their offbeat humor. When longer the relationship goes on, it is very easy to forget those positive reinforcements of the other person. It’s really a shame. Everybody enjoys being loved and appreciated. Never let your other half feels that you don’t find those things that appealed you in the first place to be attractive anymore.
Building a healthy and loving relationship is probably the best gift you can offer to yourself. A lot of people will tell you that it’s very hard to maintain a good bonding, and it takes a lot of effort. I totally disagree. If you attach with a right partner, and that both want to put in effort to make the relationship works and know how to do it, then it is not hard to sustain. Take this advice on relationships to heart and built a strong and everlasting bonding. Good luck!