If your mind keeps thinking of the question “is my marriage over,” then the answer could appear to be yes. It means that your relationship is in serious trouble heading to the divorce courts. However, this doesn’t mean that the love is over.
But, the truth is that you are not happy with the current situation because there seems to be some problems between the two of you, or it may just be your perception about how situations are. This is because you are feeling lonely and unhappy.
Whatever reasons that give rise to your present feelings, it is important to get to the bottom of the issues. If not, it will have long term impact on your marriage. When both people are feeling confused, unloved and isolated, it is almost impossible to have a joyful marriage. More often than not, it will not be a single person who is responsible to work things out, but it does help if the other person is understanding and supportive for saving a relationship.
Sometimes, a person can feel very down because lacking of certain minerals or vitamins in the diet. For example, a woman in childbearing ages requires a lot of Vitamin B in her daily diets. If not, her hormones can cause problems such as mood swings, depression and insomnia. Very often you need to take Vitamin B tablets to get on an even keel when you can’t obtain enough vitamins from natural resources. Seek help from your doctor if you are facing sleepless nights or having tough time to maintain weight. Sometimes there may be a fundamental medical condition such as a thyroid problem where medical help is really needed. All these can affect the guys in the same way.
Your worries may signify that there is a problem in your marriage. Did you ever talk to your partner regarding these feelings? While it is not an easy thing to do, putting your first step forward will certainly make you feel better. Effective communication is not something that we learn in colleague. It is one of those skills that we learn every day while growing up. Some people are born to be natural communicators. Others may struggle to put their feelings across, or into words especially when communicating to the one who means a lot to them.
The Magic of Making Up is one of those very rare books that talks about issues of communication between couples, and how problems can arise in marriages without effective interaction. Statistic has shown that more breakups are caused by couples who don’t talk to each other often compare to abusive relationship or infidelity. Many breakups can indeed be avoided but the sad bit is that both partners do not ask for help.
So, don’t just sit there and wallow in self-pity. Try talking to your other half today, and plan some private time together. Tell your partner how you feel about the relationship and ask them to share their feelings about things. You may be surprised to learn that a little bit more talking and some quality time together will help to overcome your worries completely.