The truth is that not all marriages are worth to save. Sometimes the two partners just can’t make the relationship works, or they aren’t compatible with each other. In other occasion they have to deal with a more serious problem like cheating which can cause the marriage to collapse right away.
If you or your partner has committed an affair, but both people think that the marriage is still worth saving, then do a gut check. Be prepared for a rough ride as the recovery process for rescuing a relationship will need some energy and time. It is always a great idea to seek professional help from a marriage counselor in order to have a much better chance to make things work again.
Given below are a few things to consider:
1. If your spouse has been constantly cheating on you, why do you still stay on? It doesn’t matter how much you really love him or her, it is just not worth to continue living a miserable life. They are not ever going to change anything, and the worst thing can happen when they bring home some nasty disease. Just leave!
But, if it was just a one off mistake, then let’s be honest, in a right atmosphere this can happen to anyone of us. You may want to consider but only if the person is truly feeling sorry, and will, or already stopped seeing their lover. If they’re not sincere in making commitment to change their behaviors, then it will not work. Just leave.
2. Although it is not easy to handle, it may help if both partners can discuss openly about why the offending party found it so tempting about having an affair, or so irresistible in that person. It can be very hurtful to know the truth, but people do not usually just cheat for sex, although sex is one part of it. They betrayed their partner because there is something they can’t get it from their spouse but it is available from the other person. Was it love, or something else? Knowing what has attracted your partner to the other person may help both people to recapture the things that have been missing in your marriage, something that has disappeared without realizing it overtime.
3. If you really want to stay with your partner in long run, it is important not to throw the issue up each time when there is an argument. This is really difficult, but for your relationship to work again, you need to forgive and forget all the past events. Or else, it just won’t work. For the person who has been unfaithful, he or she must realize that it will take as long as it takes for their partner to trust them again. This is just the way it is. Own up to your mistakes and accept the fact. Don’t blame it on your spouse as you’re the one who has committed adultery.
Relationships after cheating can be gotten past. This is only possible if both couples are willing to give the relationship a second try and work hard on it.