If you have been pondering “how do I get my ex to love me again,” I can tell you that there is no way to change their feelings on you. Obviously, you also can’t change their mind through pleading, crying and forcing. If this is what you have been doing, you probably get a lot of backfires. But, there are things you can certainly do to make your ex to have a second thought on you by themselves.
Since you are asking this question, I can see that you are feeling desperate, scared, upset, and sad about the breakup. You swear to win them back, and you center all the energy and attention on them. But, if recovering the lost love is the top priority now, then it is time to stop focusing on your ex partner. So, where should you divert the focus to? That’s right, on you! Focus on the bad behaviors and make changes.
I can understand the feeling. When you lost someone, you want to grab on to them as tight as possible and try to pull them to the way you want them to be. Doing this can only push them further away and leave behind an even worse impression. This is against your goal to get back together as it makes you appear to be less attractive to them now.
So, let go of them. I don’t mean that this is for permanent but commit to do this in mind. Stop all communication with them if possible. If there are children involved or due to other circumstances, keep the communication as brief as possible.
Now, they are temporary removed from the first slot in your mind. Replace yourself in there, and you are the number one thing in your own life now. Treat yourself well by having the right kind of food and exercise, and sleep enough. Sleeping can make a person looks good, reenergize and revitalize the body, and hold their nerves at bay. On the other hand, not having enough rest can make a person looks frazzled and stressed out.
Take time to join friends and family for group activities. You can also get involved in some social events that you enjoy. Spend some time alone to read, listen to songs, and go for a walk. The relationship problems may have prevented you from doing some things you enjoy. Now is the best time to catch up with all those stuff. Take a trip somewhere, or join a course if you like.
While it may take a while to get use to all these changes, very soon you find that the new way of living, in fact, makes you feel better about yourself. Now, you are also more desirable to the others.
When reaching that point, you have successfully transformed yourself to a whole new person who is absolutely more attractive and confident, and is also ready to contact them again.