Before you ask how to get back at your ex wife, ask yourself honestly if you really want to do it. Will you bring her back and later think that it is a big mistake?
No matter how badly you flubbed up again and how much that person is continuously hurt by you, there is still a chance to reconcile with her. I never say that it is going to be a quick and easy way, but the possibility is there. You need to decide whether you are willing to put in the necessary effort and time to do what it takes to bring them back. One word of caution is that if you’re not sure whether you’re able to take it all the way through, then don’t do it. Let your ex go and find new happiness. You don’t want to bring hope for her and yourself and the two people disappoint later.
Are you still with me? Good! I guess you really want to consider this option. Here’s what you should do. First, you must improve yourself with the necessary changes on attitudes and actions. Then, prove to her that you changed. Let her know you still fall for her and want her back. Avoid hollow promises and lip service as these won’t work anymore.
Now, your hope is high. You must find out what has caused the relationship to fail, and figure out what need to be changed. It may look easy but one of the toughest things to do is to assess ourselves impartially, and the result is often not what we like to see. If you want to recover with your loved one then you need to be sure of what must be changed.
Not sure how to go about it? Well, you can think back those things that the two of you were fighting for. Did she tell you how she felt about some of the things you did or said, but you didn’t bother much? Or, did you become angry or take it too personally when your ex wife tried to tell you how she felt? These are the common behaviors of most couples. When your partner brings up her opinion on something, it is about her feeling, and not yours.
If you are still struggling to find out what the roots of the problems are and have no one to turn to for help, then it may be advisable that you take time to go through a few sessions with a counselor. Some people may find them daunting but in actual fact a therapist can help to put things in proper perspective. They help to show you the things you need to see and address which you won’t be able to do it by yourself. Good luck!