If you are dumped by someone recently, I am sure you want to know how to survive a breakup. No matter who has asked for the divide, both partners will suffer a great deal of pain. But, remember this! Even though the relationship has broken, you are definitely not a broken person.
It is normal for people to have some fears at this stage. First, there is a worry you won’t be able to cope with the pain. Second, you can’t find another similar romance again.
Take heart, my friend. While one chapter of your life may have just finished, your whole life is not. You will get over the fear one day although the pain and worry are real right now.
Even though that person has left, the friends and family are still around. They love you as much as your ex partner did in the past, and you can spend more time with them now. Quite often when someone gets into a serious relationship, they lose touch with those who also mean a lot to their lives. There is no better time than now to reconnect with them.
When you start to share the painful experience on the breakup, you find that they will also share something about their past. Soon you learn that there is nothing unique about your situation. Other people have also experienced through the same pain and lived full lives after getting over their breakups. Besides spending more time connecting with people who you care about, there is also more time now for you to work on problems in your life. When two people are in a romantic relationship, a lot of time one partner may just adopt to the needs and interests of the other person. This is the best time to revisit some of those things that were pushed aside previously but interest you.
If you can’t think of any activity, then consider taking up a hobby. There are almost unlimited things you can get involved in. Some of the good activities are group events such as joining a course, a workshop, or even doing charity work. For example, joining a dancing class will let you meet people who know how to enjoy the finer things in life. If you like Chinese food, you can join a Chinese cooking class. You can also do charity works such as helping others in the old folk’s home or orphan house which can occupy your time to do something really meaningful.
When you start to re-engage with the outside world again, you occupy yourself and won’t have much time to think of the relationship. You can make more new friends with common interest, or even meet someone who is special to you. The truth is that your soul mate is somewhere out there. You will bump into them one day and start dating again.
When looking back at the relationship at that point, you find that your old partner have in fact done you a great favor for splitting up so that you can find another person who is much better.