Fixing a broken relationship can be extremely difficult and tiring. When you’re in the midst of a breakup, you desperately want to know what options are available. Most people will keep thinking about how to get their ex back. If this is the feelings you’re having right now, I suggest you first determine why you want him/her to come back.
To find out the reasons, perhaps you should do a little soul-searching whether getting back together can really make you feel satisfied. This is a more important question that needs to be answered honestly. When you start finding an answer, you will seriously rethink all the possible options.
Some people want to recover their love because worrying that they can’t find a new partner again. Others want to enjoy the convenience that their ex has brought them. If you get back together, are you going to end up in a similar situation down the road? Until you are absolutely certain that you want to prevent your breakup, how to salvage a broken relationship may not be the most pressing thing to do at this point of time.
Next, you also need to find out if your ex still wants to take you back. Try to put yourself in the position of your ex and look at situation from his/her perspective. Some people may welcome the idea and want to consider rebuilding a new relationship while others may just disagree with the thought. Since you know your ex well, you should be able to predict if he/she is willing to recover with you. If you think that they would probably be very reluctant to give it a try, then you might as well save all the troubles.
Conduct a postmortem of your relationship. Think about what caused the divide and how you feel about your ex, both the positives and negatives. Is it worth to get back together? Will you end up in another similar situation again? Is he/she really a good lover to you?
We tend to focus too much on the good things we enjoyed when suffering a breakup. But, it is completely normal as you miss the great times together and tend to ignore all the negatives that didn’t work out.
Before consider taking any forward action, take a long and hard look at all the good and bad things in the past. Also, your ex may not even be interested to recover with you. In this case, it will be a waste of time and effort to do the thing that will not bring you any result.
When dealing with a breakup, it is normal to have the feeling that some things are missing—perhaps, the safety and comfort of a relationship. You may realize that you do not really want you ex back except for the convenience provided by him/her. Therefore it is important to examine your situation so that you are not trying to recover with someone you don’t really appreciate for his/her coming back.