“Yes! I want to make my ex love me again.” If this is what you’re aiming for, make sure you have a set of successful strategies and techniques to assist you. If not, you may send your ex lover even further away.
Believe in your instincts. First, why do you break up with your former lover? Was the separation due to frequent arguments on some silly things, or are you really not compatible to some extent? Constant fighting on silly things is often an indication of a more serious issue is embedded in the relationship. Silly arguments about the small things can’t be disregarded as it will affect the relationship bonding. The issue will not go away by itself if you don’t deal with it now.
Try to seek impartial opinion from friends and family members on what makes two people to be a perfect couple. Also, get some insight into why the two of you have trapped in the current situation. With many pairs of ‘neutral’ eyes, you may find out some things that you’ve overlooked all this while.
Invite your ex partner to go out for a talk. To avoid turning the discussion into another shouting match, meet up in public places such as in a park or a restaurant with other people nearby. Your ex will probably release some steam, but do not allow the discussion descend into a session for criticizing each other. Pay attention to what they’re going to say and expect to hear some unpopular truths. Just hang in there. Let your ex know you still love them, and you want to have another chance for the relationship. Ask your ex if they are interested to do so? You can propose to visit a relationship therapist together to look at the problems.
Explain to them why you have behaved strangely in the past and do apologize for the bad attitude and actions. Also, explain why you wish to get back together. It may take some effort to convince them if you have constantly hurt them. If this was the situation before breakup, perhaps you should also reconsider if you really want to take that person back because we don’t usually hurt those we truly love on a regular basis. While it is already very hard to keep romance alive, hurting the people you love will make the relationship dying very fast.
Tell your ex partner that this time apart allowed you to have lots of time to rethink what you really want, and the answer is certainly them. You are absolutely sure that this is the only ending you wish to have.
Remind them of the past happy times together as a couple. Stroke their ego. Tell them how attractive they are and how much you want to be with them, but don’t go too far. You don’t want to show them that you’re desperate to take them back, even if you are.
You need to be aware that you’re dealing with a human, and it takes some time to win back a person. While good advice and tips are available to help, your former partner needs to determine if reconciliation is a good idea for them too. Just don’t give up. Good luck!