If you’re whispering, “My boyfriend dumped me. How can I get him back?”, then you should realize that it is a difficult thing to do. The situation is even tougher if he doesn’t want to take you back. It could be for permanent, or just for a short-term. The fact is that you can’t change his mind, but there are things you can certainly do to influence his decision.
First, you need to find out what went wrong with the relationship and why. Then, you need to determine what can be done differently this time around. The most important thing is to convince him that those things can be done. The journey to get back a former boyfriend may be tough and the result is unknown. But, the reward is tremendous with lifetime benefit.
Why are you landed in the present situation? What happened in the past? Did you do something wrong, or is he the one who is at fault? Take a close look at the relationship to understand the roots of the problems. If he has done something that upset you, then you have to be absolutely sure that the history will not repeat.
If it was something that you have committed, then you should rethink the whole situation and find out where the shortfalls are. What are you going to do to prevent it from happening again? You must have an answer.
The total efforts to be spent in the recovery process are more than just the words and a desire to make things better. To stop a similar situation from happening again, what are you going to do differently this time when you’ve successfully got back together? Why should your ex believe that things will become better this time around? Are you really serious in making changes? And, is he also?
Lots of actions are needed to make the relationship works, and both parties are required to invest in their efforts. As you’re the one who is desperate to get him back, you must be willing to take the lead to make improvement, and show him that you’re trustworthy before he wants to grant you a 2nd chance.
The toughest part will be to work on convincing him that the two of you can indeed make a good couple. If there are mistakes that keep repeating, it will be hard to prove to him that it will not occur again. The only way out is to put in your utmost effort and be extremely diligent not to allow those mistakes to happen anymore. For example, if your ex wants you to stop drinking, then you can’t let them down again. Try to avoid situations where you may be tempted to drink.
Getting back your ex is more than just the efforts and desires. A lot of time you won’t be able to do it alone. If you can’t cope with it, you should seek help from a professional or an ally to help putting things back together. Also, it can be very helpful to read a few self-help books to gain knowledge on the do’s and don’t’s to re-bond with an ex.