Every now and then you will find new release of relationship books to help people dealing with broken hearts. Unfortunately, few people will need to learn this information at some point in time, whether they want to stop a breakup, reconcile with their loved one or move on. Whatever your situation is right now, the truth is that it will take some time and effort to resolve the issues.
The time required to move on to a new life is often determined by the maturity level of the relationship you’re in during the time of the breakup. More time and energies may be needed if there are too much baggage and memories for you to grieve about before you feel like meeting someone new.
Even they have hurt you badly, more often than not it takes a while to conquer the emotions and get them off your mind. You can’t simply switch off all the feelings and love you have for them over a long time. Take small steps and edge away the feelings slowly until you come to a point you can stand on your own feet.
The first thing you can do is to get away. I don’t mean you should do it real (although you can) but just symbolically. Store away all their stuffs like survivors and pictures that can remind you of them. Don’t call, email or text them. Tell them that you need time and space and ask them not to contact you.
Each person will handle their situation differently. Some may tell their friends to box everything up and store them in the roof top. Others may try to take baby steps to keep them out of sight a little a day. There is no perfect way as long as it works. If you need to get rid of some furniture or repaint the living room to get a fresh perspective to help you, just do it.
For one thing it will surely help in this situation is that it will distract your mind from them while you are occupying with something. Changing the layout of the furniture or the environment can make things a little bit easier for you to forget the past events. Taking away some of the familiar materials will let you have less memory joggers on those painful recollections.
Look forward for a better life and surround yourself with family and friends. Life will get better everyday. So, just hang in there.